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I look forward to a day we don’t put women up on pedestals to admire their strength. I’m a survivor. We all are. We fight in our own way everyday to survive the various forms of patriarchy we live in, and to make it through despite the many other systems […]

On Strong Women

Just as I was feeling like a terrible mom I saw an article titled "10 Ways to Raise Super Perfect Kids Who Will Be Way Better Than You Could Ever Be Because Your Upbringing Sucked!!!!!" in my newsfeed—okay, that probably wasn't the EXACT title but that's how I read it. I clicked the link hoping to get some new tips on how to not completely suck as a parent.

I’m Just Practicing Parenting

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We are not special. Bullets and bombs effect our bodies the same. We’re just lucky enough to get a break from it most of the time. That this tragedy reminds us that we are not safe. That we are not so desensitized to the violence that it’s just another 129 bodies to add to the total count. We’re lucky we don’t have a total count.

The Privilege of Being Reminded That We Aren’t Safe: On ...

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As a teen I acted in ways I would never act now. I grew and learned appropriate ways of handling other people. I didn’t have the training Deputy Ben Fields had. And still, somehow, I deal with my teens not listening without choking or body slamming them. He should’ve known better. And maybe he did. I can’t help but wonder how he would’ve reacted to me as a teen. Somehow, I think it would’ve been different.

When Authoritarianism Meets Racism

I’ve been refusing help for over thirty years. It became a habit. My belief that people who wanted to help me were criticizing my ability to do things on my own remained unchallenged until recently. I wonder how much I could’ve grown if I had allowed myself to learn from others all these years.

What Toddler Tantrums Taught Me About Myself

I am so glad I live in a place where I can choose motherhood if I want to. Because of this I know I am a mom because I decided to be.

On Reproductive Choice

Language doesn’t only shift to reflect society but has the power to change it. How we and others think about the world, what we focus on, and what we disregard are all in part influenced by the language we all use. We evolve with it.

The Power of Inclusive Language: On the Open Letter to ...

The exact wording may change, but the media always seems to be asking, "Are you mom enough?" The Mommy Wars and Parenting Battles aren’t about actual parents at all. They are media-created bullshit.

Mass Media and The Mommy Wars